Learn How to Love Yourself Better in 7 Simple Ways

how to love yourself better

Loving yourself is one key to life’s happiness, pride, and satisfaction. And the icing on the cake? You glow differently when you’re happy.

It is true that making other people happy can make you feel happy as well. But you don’t have to do that all the time. If you’re feeling physically exhausted and emotionally drained, maybe it’s because you’re not focusing on yourself too much.

Self-love is not selfish. Because your greatest responsibility in life is to love yourself and to know that you are a thousand times enough.

What really is self love?

Self love is accepting what you truly feel and what you really want in order to put your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being first.

Self-love is linked to:

  • Easy recovery from stress
  • Boost in confidence and self-esteem
  • Less anxiety, stress, and depression
  • Good quality of sleep
  • Healthy change in behavior/personality
  • Positive outlook in life

The 7 simple ways to love yourself better

1. Know yourself and be honest with yourself

how to love yourself better

People lie to themselves because of two reasons: one - they don’t know who they are, and two - they are scared to accept the truth.

Honesty is the foundation of trust in all relationships, and that includes your relationship with yourself. Knowing yourself deeper will help you assess what you really want in life, and how will you be able to fulfill them.

Listen to your feelings. Don’t be shy about expressing your anger or sadness just because you’re worried that people may judge you. You can ask for help too if you feel the need to.

You’re a human being. There are times you make mistakes, you get happy, you fall in love, become frustrated, and excited, just like other people do. So what’s the point of shying away from your emotions? Rather, be honest with yourself and notice how you will change for the better as you grow further in life.

2. Use your strengths, develop your weaknesses

Did someone ever ask you about your strengths and weaknesses, then suddenly you realized what they really are?

You are unique in your own way, and that means you have a unique balance of strengths and weaknesses that some people may not have. It’s best to use your strengths wisely and develop your weaknesses.

Use your strengths to become successful or to help others reach success too.

Don’t be afraid to challenge your weaknesses so you can become stronger.

Pursuing a hobby or trying out new things are good examples. At first you know nothing. It’s like a weakness that you’re trying to learn from. Then, eventually, as you become familiar with the system, it evolves to become one of your strengths.

3. Give yourself a treat or reward

When talking about loving yourself better, treating, rewarding, or pampering yourself is always a part of it.

If you make small progress, buy something nice for yourself.
If you’re stressed, allow yourself some downtime and vacation.
If you’re feeling lonely, pamper yourself and make fun a priority.
Achieved something? Now’s the best time to tick off something off your bucket list or checklist.

Don’t be bothered by the money you will spend on buying something that will make you proud and happy, because money can still be earned. 

Don’t worry about the time you’ll be spending when you take that vacation away from work. Your career will always be there (or around), but you can never replace memories that are waiting for you.

So go, you deserve all the best for your hard work and efforts.

4. Go easy on yourself

Dreams will come true if you’re persistent enough to achieve them.
Relationships will only last if you’re strong enough to care.
Fortune only favors the bold.
And happiness is only given to those who choose it.

These can bring excessive pressure on you because you think that what you’re doing is not enough to live the life you want. But the truth is, contentment and peace are what you need in life.

If you live in contentment, you won’t get easily pressured by what’s going around you, especially with being stressed or frustrated about the things you don’t have.
If you live in peace, your life will become less complicated.
And these two are a form of self-love and self-respect.

5. Live to improve yourself, no to impress others

how to love yourself better

To love yourself better, you must be ready to accept that not all people will like you or treat you the same, and not all people are as kind as you are. 

If you fully understand this situation, you will eventually stop caring too much about what other people think of you. Instead, you will focus more on yourself and your improvements. 

You will also learn how to stand up for yourself because you’re not afraid to show your emotions and express your thoughts. Always remember, you are perfect exactly as you are. 

Surround yourself with people who will treat you with respect and kindness. Someone who will praise you instead of criticizing you, or someone who will encourage you instead of bringing you down. You always have the choice to avoid toxic people to make room for healthy relationships.

6. Practice gratitude

One way to practice gratitude is to speak kindly to yourself. You may be overly stressed out right now, but never forget to appreciate how blessed you are in many ways.

If you’re having a hard time, pause for a while. Listen to relaxing music, do meditation, or listen to positive affirmations. Never force yourself to accomplish everything if you’re not feeling well physically and mentally. This way, you will focus more on the positive and less on the negative.

Stress will play with your emotions, so be smart enough to manage it.

7. Take good care of your mind and your body

Your mind and your body are both important. Never prioritize one on top of the other, both should be well taken care of. Because if you’re not physically fine, your mental health will also be affected, and vice versa.

Follow some tips to avoid emotional burnout, plus some natural tips to live a heart-healthy lifestyle. And don’t forget to eat right.-- a balanced diet will help power your mind and body.  All these will make significant results to your overall health and wellness.

On top of that, you can make it a habit to prepare a nice and healthy meal for yourself, instead of buying food outside. If you’re busy and don’t have too much time to think of recipes, there’s an easy 7-day meal plan that can also increase your energy levels.


Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every relationship you will have, because all love comes from within. 


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